Stella Resnick, PhD
is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor. She practices in Beverly Hills, Calif., and trains and supervises therapists in Embodied Relational Sex Therapy™ (ERST). Her latest book is Body-to-Body Intimacy: Transformation through Love, Sex, and Neurobiology.
In relationships, we often focus on what’s not working, how people trigger each other’s unresolved wounds, and how to better communicate needs and wants. This is important work, but it is only half the picture. The other half has to do with enhancing the capacity to be fully present within ourselves, and body-to-body with another. What sustains a relationship is not just working through the painful times but also sharing enjoyment.