We are drawn to others not because of our similarities, but because of our differences which provide the means for growth and development. Differences become conflict when there is a struggle to convert the other person to our way of seeing or doing things. While it is natural to want to have things go in accordance with our preferences and desires, getting caught in the grip of these impulses can cause great harm to a relationship. The most important factor in the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships is the ability to manage differences skillfully. Because few of us have seen good examples of effective conflict management, it's likely that we are lacking skills in this arena. It is possible, however for anyone with a clear intention to learn the art of effective conflict management.
Through interactive exercises, group process, guided meditation, and dialogue, this workshop, designed for individuals and couples, will provide the means through which the skills of "conscious combat" can be learned, practiced, and integrated into our relationships. These skills apply not only to romantic partnerships, but to our families, friendships, and work and community relationships.
Recommended reading: Bloom and Bloom, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last and Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love.