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I- You- Us: Pleasure, Intimacy and the Search for Connectedness Week of October 13-18 , 2013

$650.00 – $3,550.00 (based on accommodation type)

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Workshop Details

This workshop is about healthy relationships—in love, in friendship, in daily life. The focus is on how to nurture our own vitality in situations where we long for connections that are more real, more safe, or more rewarding.
Pleasure is essential for healthy relationships. Add the erotic element and the potential for pleasure grows exponentially. But whether in love or friendship, in same- or opposite-gender relationships, the reality of sustaining delight in one another is often a mystery and a struggle. We substitute old avoidance patterns for intimacy as we play out the Good Girl and Super Guy roles we developed during traumatic childhoods and adolescences. Or we repeatedly act out of fear, sadness, or rage, keeping our relationships locked in the "cultural missionary position." Giving up carefully honed pain-avoidant habits releases new energies for the pursuit of personal fulfillment in relationships.
This workshop is designed to help you identify myths that block the flow of joy. Terry Hunt writes, "Together we will redefine the role of pleasure in our lives and create updated images of our sexual and sensual selves. We will explore new language that more honestly communicates our desires. We will encourage each other to approach our gender gaps with intention rather than fear, assertion rather than suspicion. We will follow our instincts for pleasure into moments of wholeness."
Come alone or with an intimate.
Recommended reading: Hunt & Paine-Gernée, Emotional Healing and Secrets to Tell, Secrets to Keep.


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