Stella Resnick, PhD,
is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor. She practices in Beverly Hills, Calif. Dr. Resnick’s Full-Spectrum Training integrates couples and sex therapy. Her most recent book is The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love.
Much emphasis in couples’ enrichment focuses on verbal communication, particularly articulating feelings and mending bridges. Yet subtle nonverbal communications can elicit unresolved past emotions in a nanosecond without either partner recognizing that their facial micro-expressions, vocal tones, and gestures are triggers. Being in touch with your bodily sensations and attuned to the other’s reactions involve present-centered body awareness and skills that can help partners heal old wounds and enjoy the pleasures of love.