Mary Goldenson, PhD,
is the author of It’s Time: No One's Coming to Save You. She is a clinical psychologist currently specializing in the resilience we need to live life. She has a private practice in Los Angeles focusing on relationships, transitions, and mediation. Mary has been working with Esalen for almost 40 years.
For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate test and proof, the work for which all the other work is but preparation.
Life is a precious gift. We have all experienced moments of feeling totally alive, especially within our relationships. When beliefs, defenses, fears, and emotions from the past enter into our present-day relationships, we lose our ability to feel love, trust, and joy.
All life is about relationships. Creating an alive and honest connection with an intimate partner requires us to go deeply into our hearts and allow the courageous self to emerge. This journey to intimacy begins with the path of forgiveness. How does forgiveness lead to intimacy?
• It allows us to let go of anger, resentment, and grief
• It allows the agitated mind to move more deeply into the healing heart
• It resolves separation from ourselves and from others
• It allows us to complete unfinished business