is a licensed clinical social worker and educator. She and her husband Charlie are cofounders of Bloomwork and coauthors of Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love and 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married.They have facilitated workshops internationally since 1986.
For individuals and couples, intimacy is to the soul as food is to the body. When the longing for intimacy is satisfied, we experience wholeness and sufficiency, and we can be at one with ourselves and the world. In conjunction with a sexual connection, intimacy can be exhilarating, inspiring, even transcendent. The shadow side of connection is fear of intimacy, which is actually the fear of loss, rejection, shame, and humiliation. These fears are common, even universal, yet their presence need not prevent us from experiencing the joys of intimate contact.