is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in the Sierra foothills and a psychology instructor at a local community college. He has facilitated personal-growth workshops throughout California for the past 30 years.
The heart has reasons which reason knows nothing of.
We commonly hear the axiom, Love is letting go of fear. There is, however, another possibility: Love means loving ourselves even when we are afraid. This applies to all so-called negative emotions: fear, anger, doubt, jealousy, and so on. We simply cannot be who we are not. Accepting who we are allows healing to begin. Judging ourselves, we lose sight of the deeper message our feelings bring to us, reinforcing the very negativity we are attempting to dissolve.