is a licensed psychologist in private practice in San Mateo, Calif. He has led workshops for couples at Esalen for many decades. He wrote 2 books concerning enhancing a love relationship: Couple therapy and Hidden Meanings.
“How can we be open and vulnerable to love our partner, and at the same time be free to continue to grow as an individual?” Gerald Smith asks. “This balance of merging and yet maintaining our own center is never completely worked out, because each of us continues to change. However, this dilemma of competing needs can be dealt with in ways that will add even more aliveness to what we already have. In fact, a relationship that offers closeness, while at the same time supports the freedom to be different, can be a superb motivating force for our own deepest growth.