Stella Resnick, PhD,
psychologist, Gestalt therapist, and certified sex therapist in Beverly Hills, Calif., trains and supervises therapists in her full-spectrum approach to psychotherapy and sex therapy. Her latest book is The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love.
The ability to sustain and enjoy a loving relationship over time is a blessing and supreme accomplishment. When stress, conflict, or periods of separation are successfully resolved, those experiences inspire resilience, strengthen the bond, and expand us as individuals. A couple’s issues are often a result of old attachment programming — body-based emotional habits that trigger ineffective reactions to feelings of threat. Honing skills for soothing stress and embracing loving pleasures can help partners work as a team to heal old pain and to build on the strengths of their connection.