is a licensed clinical social worker and educator. She and her husband Charlie are cofounders of Bloomwork and coauthors of Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love and 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married.
We are drawn to others not because of our similarities, but because of our differences which provide the means for growth and development. Differences become conflict when there is a struggle to convert the other person to our way of seeing or doing things. While it is natural to want to have things go in accordance with our preferences and desires, getting caught in the grip of these impulses can cause great harm to a relationship. The most important factor in the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships is the ability to manage differences skillfully.
The purpose of our lives is to be happy. -His Holiness the Dalai Lama